When I start working with new clients, I always begin with four key steps to help stop unwanted behaviors and replace them with more appropriate ones. My goal isn’t to dictate how their dogs should behave or what house rules they should have. Instead, I coach them on agreeing as a household on the rules and then guide hem in teaching their dog what is expected. Consistency within the home is one of the most important factors in raising a well-behaved, happy dog.

Step 1: Reward the Behaviors You Want to See More Often

The best way to shape your dog’s behavior is by reinforcing the good choices they already make. Always have treats in your pocket or placed around the house where your dog can’t reach them. Every time your dog offers a desirable behavior-like sitting calmly instead of jumping-reward them generously. During this stage, it’s crucial not to correct unwanted behaviors but rather focus all attention on rewarding the good ones.

Step 2: Stop Rewarding the Unwanted Behavior

While this may seem simple, the real challenge is recognizing how often unwanted behaviors are unintentionally rewarded. Dogs repeat behaviors that get them attention, even if it’s negative. Managing their environment is key to preventing them from practicing undesirable habits. For example, if your dog jumps on guest, use a leash or a baby gate to prevent access. If they jump up and someone acknowledges them-even to push them off-they’ve just been rewarded with attention. Behaviors that receive no attention (reinforcement) go away on their own.

Step 3: Teach an Alternative Behavior

Rather than focusing on stopping an unwanted behavior, teach your dog what to do instead. If your dog jumps on guests, train them to sit when greeting people. At the very least, reward them for keeping all four paws on the floor. By reinforcing a more appropriate behavior, you give your dog a clear path to success.

Step 4: Use Gentle Interrupter’s, Not Harsh Corrections.

I rarely use the word “NO” with my dogs. Instead, I reserve it as an emergency cue for extreme situations. Instead, I use a soft behavior interrupter, such as “oops!” This gently interrupts the behavior without creating a negative or scary experience. It simply tells your dog that you’re looking for a different behavior from them.

What About Corrections?

Once a dog reliably understands the expected behavior, if they still choose an unwanted action, I may remove them from the situation and allow them time to relax. This isn’t a punishment-it’s a reset. Giving them a break helps them regain composure so they can be reintroduced to the situation and try again. However, corrections should only come after a dog fully understands what is expected, and softer interrupters haven’t worked.

Training Dogs Like We’d Want to Be Trained

Imagine starting a new job where you have a general idea of your responsibilities, but you’re still learning. Now, imagine your boss yelling “NO” at you every time you make a mistake-but never explaining what you should be doing instead. How long would you want to stay at that job?

Dogs thrive in environments where they are set up for success. By rewarding the right behaviors, preventing reinforcement of unwanted ones, teaching alternatives, and using gentle guidance, we can create a positive learning experience that leads to a well-mannered, happy dog.

Building a Strong, Loving Relationship

Following these steps not only helps shape your dog’s behavior but also strengthens your bond with them. Training based on clear communication, positive reinforcement, and mutual understanding builds trust and deepens your connection. When your dog feels safe, respected, and guided rather than punished, they become more eager to listen and learn. A relationship built on patience and encouragement fosters a loving, lifelong partnership between you and your dog.

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